Many parents forget the importance of respecting their children’s learning rhythms every day. We live in a world full of rush where you always run everywhere. Speed and immediacy seem to be the norm in our society, and in this sense, it also seems that children have to be faster in everything. But it doesn’t have to be that way, far from it.
Each person has a different rhythm, and the children the same! There are children who begin to speak before others, small children who leave the diaper very early, other children who walk before or who begin to read later … and nothing is strange, you just have to respect the rhythm of each one. Learning can be faster or slower, but what matters is that children progress in their development.
There are children more moved than others. Children who play more alone and others who only want to play together. For some children studying is easy, for others, a nightmare because they prefer to spend their time doing more interesting activities for them. Everyone lives things in their own way and must be respected, and above all, help in the event of difficulties of any kind.
Without comparing better
It is inevitable that parents when they talk about their children do not compare them. They talk about their children and think about whether other people’s children have reached developmental milestones earlier than their own, whether they get better or worse grades, or whether their behavior is correct or not. When this happens, most parents feel that they have to do more for their children, that they are not doing enough or worse, that they are somehow failing their little ones.
In this sense, parents believe that the right thing to do is to fill their children with activities such as homework, reinforcement classes, play groups … There are so many important aspects in children’s lives that there comes a time that they do not know where it is going. better to walk so that everything goes well.
Put the brakes
But it is not necessary so much, the best reinforcement and the best stimulation that children can have, is always with their parents. Parents need to remember that learning and development is a process, not a goal. Have you ever heard that he never stops learning? Exactly! Life is continuous learning, but when your children are young… you are their best guide!
There is a lot to learn besides understanding math or language (which is also very important). But in order to advance developmental milestones or academic learning, children must first be HAPPY. They must have their emotions well taken care of so that in this way they are able to advance with confidence in themselves. Learning to control frustration, understand yourself and others, become emotionally stronger is to become smarter in every way.
We live in a society that seems like life is a competition. But it is a matter of parents starting to educate our children without constantly thinking about competition. Instead, it is better to accompany each other, help each other, trust each other … be grateful with life and with what is being achieved. They seem like incredible thoughts but they could certainly be excellent attitudes to be able to live in a society where people really support each other, regardless of age or culture.
Instead of running, having that feeling of momentum… let’s trust ourselves! Do not compare your children with the children of others. Do not feel that he is late or that he has a problem, because if he is not diagnosed in anything and everything else is going well, he just has his own rhythm! Your child has strengths and must learn that he himself is valuable just the way he is. No more, no less.…